The Things that help Me Get through...

It's February and boy has it been a challenging 2014 thus far in every aspect of my life. Although I have not mastered changing my attitude in a snap of a finger, I do know that for me it is a process and a journey. We’ve all had days (and maybe even years) when life just doesn’t seem to be going our way! I’ve had long seasons of life where I felt like nothing was working and everything was out of whack, and I’ve had frustrating days where I just can’t seem to get anything accomplished.

Here are a few things I’ve learned to remember in those challenging seasons of life that have helped me and I hope they help you as well! I believe having a higher power (it doesn't matter what your belief/religion is) is one of the most important things in life.

1. Remember that your Character should always be stronger than your Circumstances

We can’t always control what happens to us, but we can always control how we choose to respond. In those moments when I choose to stop complaining and instead give thanks to God for the good in my life, the parts that seem bad start to seem much less significant. Choose to keep a positive attitude and thankful heart regardless of what you’re going through.

2. Remember that your Struggles always lead to Strength.
Every difficulty in your life, whether big or small, is something that is meant to produce more strength, faith and perseverance. All your pain has a purpose.

3. Remember that God’s timing is always perfect.
God’s plans are almost always different from our plans, but His plans are always perfect! Have the patience to wait on His timing instead of forcing your own.

4. Remember that God will never leave your side.
You may feel like you’re going through this struggle all alone, but have faith that your higher power is by your side to the end so never lose hope!

And, one of my favorite quotes that always seems to comfort me:

“Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.” Deuteronomy 31:6


I hope these truths give you the strength to keep going on those days when life is at its worst as they have helped me! 

Patty

Patty Boom Boom
wwww.patriciaalcivar.com

"Don't be the Girl who fell...BE the girl who got back up."



Special thanks to David Jaewon-oh for picture

 Throughout my life, through faith and prayer, hardships, difficult and beautiful experiences, I've learned that developing a positive mindset along with prayer and faith, can be the most powerful life strategies there is. Positive affirmations and positive thinking can help develop a powerful and positive attitude to life; which is an essential element in life success and good health.

2013 has proven to be one of the most challenging years in my entire life and I've had quite a few adversities growing up from having an alcholic abusive father in my childhood, to being on my own at 15 years old to battling a fatal illness in my 20's and now in my 30's, fighting to keep my dreams alive in every area of my life.

This year, I've experienced some incredible unfair losses, injustices, mistreatment and really have seen the ugly side of people and the world. Those are the times, I've had to dig extra deep and fight the feelings of bitterness, resentment and the need to get even.  Those are awful toxic feelings that don't serve yourself or others.  Instead, I try hard to remember the good things and wonderful accomplishments that have happened this year and the good that people have done and it never fails to bring a smile and help me develop new positive affirmations..

My Positive Affirmations:
1. My favorite one this yr-"Don't be the Girl who Fell.BE the Girl who got back up!"
2. Be Kind, Be Humble, Be Patient, Be Strong!
3. It's a New Day to Start Over!
4. Everything happens for a Good Reason! There is a Lesson to be Learned..
5. Don't let an unkind person's actions affect who you are negatively.It's them,not YOU!
6. When Life Gets Tough, Keep Moving! Go For a Run, Box, Walk, Swim..just Move!
7. Action Speaks Louder than Words! Lead by Example!
8. Weak People Revenge. Strong People Forgive. Intelligent People Ignore.
9. Hardships often prepare Ordinary People for an Extraordinary Destiny.
10. Never Ever Ever Give Up!

A few weeks ago, I came down with a Kidney infection that forced me to see a doctor in a private hospital immediately. The doctor reviewed my chart and saw I did not have health insurance. The attention and care I received was something that touched me beyond words. More than half of the visit fee was waived and required medication was discounted. It was almost like she was heaven sent...Good things do happen!

So after an amazingly trying year I have learned the most important lessons when I have stayed positive...I have learned that in order to get what you want in life, you often have to go beyond what you thought you were capable of. That’s how we grow. Achieving goals isn’t just about getting what you’re going after. It’s also about forcing yourself to become better, wiser, and stronger so that you can take on even bigger goals.

Life is going to find way to test you. At times, you may feel that life is unfair. The urge to quit during these times are the highest but don’t give in. Whatever your dream is, if it’s important to you, then fight for it. Just remember that there is more than one way to achieve your dreams.

Happy Holidays & A very Happy & Healthy 2014!

Warmest Wishes,
Patty
Patty Boom Boom
www.patriciaalcivar.com

“The struggle you’re in today is developing the strength you need for tomorrow. Don’t give up.”~Robert Tew~

When a Loss is not really a Loss....

In 1996, I entered my first Daily News Golden Gloves Tournament. My trainer had prepared me as best as anyone could prepare a fighter. I had been living on my own since 15years old in NYC, so fighting and my dreams was pretty much all I had. I won my first two bouts and made it to the finals that would take place at the Paramount Theatre in Madison Square Garden. This was a crazy tough fight, but my trainer, the announcers and myself thought I had done enough to win until the official decision was announced and I had lost a split decision.

I truly believe that each difficult moment has the potential to open my eyes and open my heart. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve my performance for the next time. That first loss taught me the meaning of resiliency, perserverence and faith. I should have won that fight, but there was a lesson to be learned. In 1997, I entered the Women's USA Nationals and trained even harder. I won my first 3 bouts making it once again to the Championships Final against another tough opponent. My performance that night made me the 1st Female ever to be voted "Athlete of the Year" by the USA Olympic Committee. This victory would not have been as rewarding without that first loss.

This past Wednesday, March 7, 2012 was suppose to be my moment to shine at BB Kings for my 6th professional fight. My team knew that by taking this fight we were in for an uphill battle as my opponent for this bout was represented by the promoter putting on this event. However, that was not going to deter me from putting in the hard work and lose focus on my goals for boxing. I had 4 weeks to prepare properly and I am ever so grateful for the great training & sparring partners & support I received at Trinity Boxing.

I have always felt that if you are willing to work hard and make the necessary sacrifices in all areas of your life, you can make your dreams come true. The big day had arrived and I did my usual routine of prayers and visualization. I had put in the hard work and I was mentally & physically prepared.

Being in the ring prior to that first bell, I felt at home as if this was where I was suppose to be. All my life I have fought for my beliefs, my rights, my dreams and that night was no different. The bell rang and although my opponents style was awkward and different, I was still charging forward and trying to adjust. In the 2nd round, my opponent stepped on my foot and I got caught off balance where this was called a "knockdown". For the first time in my professional boxing career, I was behind in the cards and knew I had to dig deep and never give up. I rallied and threw hard punches right thru the next 4 rounds which resulted in me knocking down my opponent in the fifth round and causing her legs to buckle a few times.

The end result once again was losing a tough split decision but I realize that every trial endured and weathered in the right spirit makes my soul nobler and stronger than it was before. This loss is no different..It has left my spirit untouched and know in my heart it happened for a good reason. A loss, injuries & heartbreaks are minor setbacks that have made me the fighter I am today and I will take this opportunity to build on my faith to make me a stronger all around athlete and person as well as continue on my mission of being a good inspirational example to women, athletes & everyday people around the world.

In closing, I would like to thank my boxing Team, loved ones, family, friends & fans for the wonderful love & support on this tough road that in the end will make all of us believers of always fighting the Good Fight and relying on Faith, Strength & Courage!

Much Love,
Patty Boom Boom
www.patriciaalcivar.com

Digging Deep!

"Overcoming obstacles in life & accomplishing goals are like reaching the peak of a mountain," Patty Boom Boom

As the Thanksgiving Holiday is among us, I start thinking about all the things I am grateful for in my life and this year, one particular thing came to mind and that was the power and strength to always dig deep...

There are times where you get the courage to move forward with a goal and plan every step and then out of nowhere, things don't go exactly as planned...This has been a constant occurence in my life that has taught me to dig deep!

Finding the strength and mental toughness to keep pushing, to keep plugging, to keep fighting is one of life's most daunting challenges. Sometimes we're up to the challenge, sometimes we're not. Or so we think.

Sports has been the greatest metaphor of life for me and I am forever grateful for each lesson learned. In 1996, I participated in my first Daily News NYC Golden Gloves. In my first match in the prelims, I fought a girl named Barbosa who had just got out of prison and her total focus was to eat me alive, but I gave her 3 standing eight counts and ended the bout in the 1st round. I moved to the semi-finals and faced the previous year's champion, Christine Bruno. I was the inexperienced younger fighter at the time & a huge underdog, but I ended up stopping her in the 2nd round and moving to the finals in Madison Square Garden. The championship match with Eileen Lacy was incredible and it seemed as if it was my night to shine, but the fight was too close and the decision did not go my way.

It was a devastating loss and I wasn't sure how to get back from that, but I was thankful to have faith and my trainer to help me believe that it was worth trying again. And so I did and came back to win 2 consecutive NYC Golden Gloves Titles, a National & International Title throughout the next few years! In addition to completing 16 Marathons throughout the past 15 years and competing in a variety of sports that totally take me out of my comfort zone. Sometimes, we just need to dig deep! We have more going for us than we sometimes believe; in fact, we have a whole lot more than we can possibly imagine. Deep down inside each of us dwells a limitless reservoir of untouched magic, a supernatural cache of power and strength capable of overcoming anything and everything thrown in our path.

This year, I faced all types of personal obstacles with my job, education and athletics. I am thankful that I am able to see these challenges as a way to teach me a lesson and make me stronger and more resilient. Whenever life starts smacking me around, I know I need to step back for a moment. And start digging deep. I listen to what my heart and soul tells me to do. The answers will come if you dig deep enough and long enough.

One of the events that taught me a valuable lesson and that I hold dear to my heart this year is the Men's Health Magazine NYC Urbanathlon. I dedicated 12-weeks of plyometrics, stair workouts and speed drills on the track during the crazy hot and humid NYC summer. The big day was on October 29th. Everything seemed to be going perfectly until a couple of days before the event where the temperature in NYC practically dropped 50 degrees and there was a threat of rain and snow for the day of the event. Just a few days before, NYC had been spoiled with great weather. The day had arrived and there was no turning back. One of my weakness and fear has always been the cold and rain, but this was another opportunity to face my fears and not give up no matter what.

The Urbanathlon truly tested me in every way and even though I did not win, I did finish among the top women and learned once again to get back up even when you get knocked down...
http://www.youtube.com/user/MHUrbanathlon?feature=mhee#p/a/u/0/_zd3-b5T4lE

Life can come at you really hard, testing your will and taxing your tenacity; testing and taxing it right to the hilt. And life can push you right to the wall, right to the breaking point on occasion. But that's OK as long as you remember that it's not what's happening on the outside that matters the most, but what you've got going on inside. And deep down, where it counts, you've got way more than enough.

So this Thanksgiving Holiday, I am thankful for my never-ending faith, my loved ones, my supporters and the ability to tap into the magic within by digging a little deeper when things don't go exactly as planned.

"Real riches are the riches possessed inside."

Wishing you all a very Happy & Healthy Holiday Season!

Much Love & Blessings,

Patricia "Patty Boom Boom" Alcivar
Professional Boxer, Competitive Runner &
Fitness/Commercial Model
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No Guts, No Glory!

"There's a difference between interest and commitment. When you are interested in doing something, you do it only when it's convenient. When you're committed to something, you accept no excuses; only results!"

The Chicago Marathon was nothing short of magical. My sister and I were nervous but excited when we arrived in Chicago last Saturday,October 8th. Besides, she had been in the hospital just a week before with a serious debilitating injury/condition that had caused her to rethink about her plans to run this marathon in which she had put in 15 solid weeks of training.

I remember her asking me "What would you do in my situation?" I took a deep breath and tried to respond the best way I could with her safety in mind. In my second professional fight last year, I fought with a broken foot and earlier this year, I fought with a respiratory infection. Obstacles will always be part of our lives and you have to do what you feel in your heart is best for YOU and the rest is pure Faith. I assured her that I was proud of her despite of what her decision would be. A couple of days later, she would confirm her decision to run the Chicago Marathon although her goals had changed and completing this Marathon (her 3rd ever) after a 6-yr break was going to be beyond rewarding.

The alarm sounded at 5am on Sunday, October 9th. I had awoken with amazing feelings of Gratitude for arriving safely the day before, for having an awesome night out in Chicago and for the day I was about to have. My sister and I got great sleep and we were stoked that the hotel's Starbucks was opening at 5am to accomodate the runners. I was smiling big when we went downstairs to have our tea & oatmeal. Genuine Enthusiasm, Confidence & Faith are contagious and I knew I had enough for both of us.

We made our way through the 47,000 thousand registered runners to our assigned corrals and the time to say good-bye had arrived. I gave my sister a heartfelt crazy tight, but very confident hug & then I focused on the race I was about to run. A run that I knew I was ready for and was doing to test myself; to bring the best out of myself & continue to strengthen my faith. The airhorn went off at 7:30am & the 26.2 mile journey begun...

My goal for this Marathon was to run a solid 3:40 that would qualify me for Boston. I had battled through a few health scares & injuries for a few years that prevented me from running a marathon at that pace since 2005. I visualized what I wanted to run & how I wanted to feel all week and just had the faith that I could finally pull it off. The first 3 miles, I was flying at a 7:30 pace. I was rocking to my mp3 player when all of a sudden it made a weird high pitch sound and completely died on me. Whoa! What was I going to do with 23.2 miles left without music? I don't think I ever ran any long distance events without music.

I did panic for a couple of minutes, but all of a sudden felt a sense of peace. It dawned on me that this was an opportunity to really take in each mile; to listen to my body; to rely on myself and on my faith. Each mile was dedicated to a certain time in my life where I could remember great achievements. I could also hear the church songs playing in my head throughout the race. Mile 23 seemed to be where I started to struggle the most & felt incredible fatigue & ache in my lower back. I knew I had it in me to push through the discomfort.

As Mile 26 approached, I was so overwhelmed with emotion. I could see myself raising my hands in victory and as I made my way to the 26.2 mile finish line, I looked up and saw 3:40! I was overcome with tears of joy and amazing feelings of gratitude. I walked in disbelief but with a big koolaid smile. I waited anxiously for my sister to finish and seeing her finish a couple of hours later was the icing on the cake! We had both completed the Chicago Marathon and we were both healthy and proud..

This was my 16th Marathon and definitely a very special one that I will hold dear to my heart forever for a few reasons. Training my sister for this event helped bond us in a unique way, but also seeing her dedication & transformation was rewarding for both of us. Sharing the incredible feeling of accomplishment and knowing that we both did it for our own personal reasons was significant as I have learned the hard way that doing things for the wrong reasons to prove other people wrong results in empty feelings. To me, this run was spiritual as it showed me the power of faith and belief like never before.

The feeling of accomplishment; to know you pushed beyond your limits and brought out the best in you for YOU is an inner satisfaction that no one can ever take away from you...I am forever grateful for this opportunity and can only hope to continue to bring out the best!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QVDXiTF95fU&feature=share

Much Love,
Patricia "Patty Boom Boom" Alcivar

Me & My Sis..

ALL relationships worth fighting for require Communication, Honesty & an open mind and heart...Someone has to be willing to give in and have an open mind/heart as you cannot fight fire with fire. In not doing so, you run the risk of losing precious time/milestones in each others lives that you cannot bring back. Giving in requires both humility and an open heart even if the other person does not give in. Doing your part ensures a healthy heart free of toxic resentment.

The problem with many people in my family has always been the inability for someone to give in. About 4 years ago, my younger sister and I had a disagreement where neither one of us gave in. We would be estranged for 3 years while I was living in North Carolina. There was not a day that passed by where I wondered how she and my niece were doing. I prayed that somehow we would come back into each other's paths. That opportunity came when I moved back to NYC last year. I asked my mom to invite my sister and niece to my house for the Christmas Holiday. That would require both of us to have an open heart and mind...

I will never forget the feeling of peace, relief and joy when I came home the evening of December 24, 2010 to find my sister, niece and mom standing in my kitchen. We hugged and spoke like two old friends that had not seen each other in years. Even though there were no apologies exchanged, I think we both understood that we had punished ourselves enough by letting so much time pass without speaking. I was excited and grateful to have this new opportunity to have my sister back and I was already planning all the things I wanted to do and share with her.

I noticed my sister had gained considerable weight (about 30lbs). My way of showing love to my loved ones is sharing my passion for health, for life & faith. Little by little, we became closer as we once were and I found out about her goals to regain her health & fitness and the desire to conquer a Triathlon and a marathon "down the road." She saw her goals as a distant dream, but I didn't. I was more excited about her goals than she was and remember researching the perfect events & designing a program that would enable her to achieve all her goals THIS YEAR!

In late February, I had the perfect plan that included conquering not one but 2 Triathlons; one in June & one in July, a Biathlon, a couple of Half Marathons & the grand finale with a full Marathon in the Fall all while she revamped her nutrition and lost the 30lbs. I remember telling her my plan and the look on her face thinking I was completely out of my mind. "If you can't, you must!" I assured her with every ounce of confidence that my crazy plan was doable. All I needed was her commitment to the training regimen. I got that from her and much more!

I love inspiring people, but there are times where I need to be inspired and it really doesn't take that much. Whether it is the desire to never give up, a small detail/words of gratitude, commitment, loyalty, honesty and open communication are definitely big things that inspire me. They are powerful details that just make me want to give even more of myself. My sister did all of the above! We attacked our fear of the water on a weekly basis, we ran the roads & trails, we biked some long distances and had amazing adventures and challenges all while we bonded more than we ever thought possible.

8 months later, my sister has lost over 40 lbs, conquered 2 Triathlons, placed in her age group in her first ever Biathlon, Completed 3 half Marathons and has put amazing training & dedication all while being a great mom to her 14-yr old daughter, a hard worker and a great sister & daughter. The grand finale is here and we are set to run the Chicago Marathon this Sunday, October 9, 2011.

Chicago will be my 16th Marathon & I plan to use it as a qualifier for the Boston Marathon. But besides the inner staisfaction of completing this marathon, it truly will be a special marathon as I see my sister cross the finish line. A Marathon that helped heal and bond us back together.

In closing, I have to say that I have learned that in life, relationships, sports, education and work, you must truly give it your all to ensure you have no regrets. If for whatever reason things don't work out, at least you have a peace of mind knowing you did everything you could and that I can certainly live with..

Much Love,
Patricia "Patty Boom Boom" Alcivar

Reason, Season, or Lifetime
People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When you figure out which one it is,
you will know what to do for each person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON,
it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty;
to provide you with guidance and support;
to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend, and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.

Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,
this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON,
because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it. It is real. But only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons;
things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person,
and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life

Determinded Ladies!

It is said that when something is continuously done from the heart with enough enthusiasm, love, energy and passion, the vibe is felt and breaks down resistance...That is what I was hoping for when I got hired to be the Head Coach at a first time program named "Running & Community Engagement," a scholarship program where 20 High School Senior Girls from all over the 5 NYC Boroughs were chosen from a pool of about 100 applicants. The requirement for this program included an essay, references from a teacher or mentor, the desire to be involved with community service and no prior significant running background.

My job was to design and lead an 8-week program that would enable them to complete their first ever 5k. But that was just the easy part...The first day had arrived and I got to meet the 20 Girls that would become a very important milestone in my life. We introduced ourselves and I could tell that some were excited, some were nervous, some were skeptic and some were confused. I took them right out of their comfort zone and tested them with a 1.5 mile loop of the reservoir. The assistant coach, Zach was in charge of motivating them throughout the run and pretty much being my eyes and ears. We had a talk after that first practice and agreed we had our work cut out for us, but I was sure that the girls would never forget their first day as it was a wake-up call!

I wanted to create a "Team" environment and knowing each other's names was priority. I gave myself 2 days to learn every one's name and then required the very same from them, if not, they were required to do 5 push-ups for each name they missed and they were also given 25 push-ups for anyone that came 1 minute late to class. Needless to say, they were doing a-lot of push-ups the first couple of weeks. So, one day after class, they all got together and took a picture as a group and tagged each other on Facebook! Sure enough, they learned each other's name and were nearly perfect for the next class. What mattered to me was that they were working together as a "Team" to find a solution...

We met 3 times a week (Tuesday & Thursday evenings & Saturday mornings)and for the next few weeks I put them through some very challenging workouts that included calisthenics, plyometrics, speed drills, stairs and hill repeats just to name a few. Most of them had never performed any of these exercises and they cringed at the thought of push-ups and pull-ups. That was perfect, I thought..Each time I named a new exercise, they were never too shy to say, "There is NO WAY I'm Doing that," but my response with out hesitation would always be "YOU MUST!"

There was definitely many different personalities that sometimes shocked me, frustrated me, made me laugh, inspired me and then just sometimes made me dig within myself and my own feelings. This was just not a "Running Program." To me, it was a valuable opportunity to help these young ladies experience the power of belief in themselves; Of giving something a try even if they didn't think they could do it and never giving up on them even if they fought back...

One of their projects within the first couple of weeks was to come up with a team name which in the end was voted "Determined Ladies." I think the name started really resonating with them each time they completed a demanding workout which was pretty much every practice for the first 6 weeks.

The weeks went by and even though it was amazing to see how their fitness was improving, I did not back-off one bit. It was important to me to keep pushing them until the very end. Even though, I could notice them jumping higher, running faster and just an overall progression. In week 7, it was time to re-test them and show them how far they have come...We re-tested them on the 1.5 mile reservoir run as they did on the very first day. The results were nothing short of astounding! 100% of the girls improved and cut between 3-7 minutes off their time.

While recording and comparing their times, I was definitely moved with emotion. From my own personal experience, I knew what it felt like to have a coach push me so hard and believe in me more than me. It was that which made me perform to the best of my ability in amateur boxing and helped me become the first female ever to be voted "Athlete of the Year," by the United States Olympic Committee.

However, I needed to stay strong as their big moment was still awaiting. I gave them each a high five for a job well done and did point out how far they have come. We still had a week left of workouts before their big 5k. The big day was suppose to be on Saturday, August 27th; the day before Hurricane Irene was suppose to hit NYC, but the City of NY cancelled ALL events including our 5k. I was truly disappointed at first, but then realized, it was such a great metaphor for what truly happens in life. We can plan all we want, but life happens and we have to "roll with the punches," readjust and keep pressing forward.

I had to re rally the girls for an extra week of workouts and found another 5k the following weekend. The extra week of workouts was not suppose to be brutal, but instead, focus on maintaining what they had built over the past 8 weeks. On September 10, 2011, "Determined Ladies" ran and completed the Continental Breakfast 5k successfully! I waited for each and everyone of them as they crossed the finish line placing a finisher's medal around their neck with the biggest smile ever.

This was truly an unforgettable and rewarding Summer that has left and amazing impression in my heart. Thank You "Determined Ladies" for allowing me to coach you. My hope is that you will always remember this program during any times of difficulties and know that you can do ANYTHING, if you just give it a try. YOU are your own hero and Don't ever let anyone tell you "You Can't." Everything you need is already inside. You all were definitely worth the effort!

As a special treat that just added to the emotion, my 13 yr old niece was inspired by the "Determined Ladies" to also participate in her very first 5k with them. Nothing is so contagious as enthusiasm and I was ever so proud that it rubbed off on so many wonderful people this summer!

So for now, my mission was accomplished...When you genuinely want to inspire and get through to someone, it takes dedication, commitment and never ending belief and regardless of age, gender or race, the barriers will fade. It's faith in something and enthusiasm for something that makes a life worth living!

"Face Your Fears, Live Your Dreams!"

Much Love,
Patricia "Patty Boom Boom" Alcivar
www.patriciaalcivar.com